You don’t eliminate a bad habit, you replace it.
A bad repetitive habit is repeating the pattern. Looking for the same patterns makes you feel comfortable because you need that comfort zone of what is known or familiar to you. If you have negative patterns that give you comfort, try to find that comfort in different, positive, healthy patterns.
When you show resistance to change you are in a defensive mode, a survival mode (fight or flight). When you open to changes, you are growing .
Thoughts are there forever. Choose which are the thoughts that benefit you, that give you the freedom and better relationships. It will open you to more opportunities.
TOOLS TO BREAK THE PATTERNS
- INTENTION – make a conscious choice that you want to change the pattern. You don’t need not to have a bad habbits, you just need to return to hhave good habits!
- BE AWARE of your thoughts, language, and behaviors that can be racist.
- RECOGNIZE your negative patterns.
- Be kind with yourself.
- Don’t judge yourself or others. Respect the process.
- Be open – be curious. The more knowledgeable you are, the bigger your comfort zone will be.
- Cut out as many triggers as possible. Choose a positive environment/community to empower you. Surround yourself with people who live the way you want to live.
- Visualize your new identity and be focused on the benefits of new patterns, a new you.
- Come up with action steps (affirmations, new thoughts, new actions, etc).
- Change your body physiology, change your thoughts, change your behaviors.
- Practice for 21 days to create a new habit. The 21 Day Habit Theory was first introduced by Maxwell Maltz, a plastic surgeon in the 1950s. He discovered that a patient who had, for example, a face operation, would need 21 days to get used to seeing their new face.“We must break the pattern before the pattern breaks us.”“When our thinking forms a pattern to go only in one direction, it becomes difficult to change it completely, but we can always train it not to go there anymore. We must break the pattern before the pattern breaks us.” Shahenshah Hafeez Khan